Opening Messages AI Prompts
4 ready-to-use prompts — pick a tool, copy, and go
Why ChatGPT?
ChatGPT generates contextually specific opening messages that reference real details from a match's profile — the key differentiator between messages that get responses and those that don't. Its conversational tone and humor calibration make openers feel human, not scripted.
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You are helping me write a first message on a dating app. Your goal: get a genuine reply, not just a like. The message should feel human, not copy-pasted.
About my match's profile:
{{match_profile_details}}
About me (so the message sounds like me):
- My tone: {{my_tone}}
- My humor style: {{humor_style}}
Write 5 opening message options across these styles:
1. **Observation** — something specific you noticed about their profile, stated with genuine curiosity
2. **Playful challenge** — a light-hearted debate or challenge based on something in their profile
3. **Shared reference** — connecting something in their profile to your own experience
4. **Question** — a specific, non-generic question that requires a real answer (not "what do you do for fun?")
5. **Absurdist/unexpected** — something that breaks the pattern of every other opener they've received
Rules:
- Max 2 sentences per message
- No compliments on physical appearance
- No "hey" or "hi" as an opener
- No questions they can answer with "yes" or "no"
- Respectful, no manipulation tactics Make it yours Fill in 3 fields to get a tailored prompt Customize ↓
Example (filled in)
Match profile: Photo at Moroccan market, training for first marathon, loves Ursula Le Guin, UX designer | My tone: dry and curious | Humor: dry
Sample AI Output
1. OBSERVATION: "The Moroccan market photo — are you someone who seeks out the chaotic market on purpose, or did you end up there by accident and just looked comfortable?"
2. PLAYFUL CHALLENGE: "Training for your first marathon and reading Le Guin simultaneously — one of these things is about endurance, and I'm not sure which one you'd say is harder."
3. SHARED REFERENCE: "Le Guin as a favorite is a strong signal — are you a The Left Hand of Darkness person or an Earthsea person? (I feel like these say different things about someone.)"
4. QUESTION: "What's the thing about marathon training that surprised you most — in a way that makes you question your past self for signing up?"
5. ABSURDIST: "I have a theory that everyone who lists Le Guin as a favorite author has a specific opinion about bureaucracy. Curious if mine holds up."
Tips for Better Results
Paste in direct quotes from their bio where possible — ChatGPT writes much better openers when it has verbatim text rather than paraphrasing. Ask for 5 options and pick the one that sounds most like you, then ask ChatGPT to make it 20% more casual.